Saturday, February 21, 2015
Science/medicine becomes more deranged, but, there is also no doubt that obsession with what one eats, a Western indulgence where people can waste time agonising over what they will eat, while many in the Third World only agonise over, IF they will eat, is not healthy either.
Our bodies have evolved to eat a variety of foods and optimal nutrition will always come from firstly, fresh, which generally means as local as possible and home-prepared and minimally processed as many different foods as possible, to maximise nutritional opportunities.
Beyond that, food and eating should be a pleasure and where you agonise over counting calories or nutrient values or whether it is 'bad' or 'good' for you, or in this quantity or that quantity, or eaten with this food or that food, at this time or that time, sigh, then it no longer becomes a pleasure.
More to the point, stress levels rise affecting digestion and assimilation and your nutrient levels go down. Food is the first and best medicine but mostly it is simply one of life's greatest pleasures and not to be taken too seriously.
Whatever you eat, if you have robust health then you have no worries. If you have health issues then by all means spend a bit of time ensuring you get a lot of fresh, a lot of variety and even more enjoyment.
Monday, February 16, 2015
Look after the only body you will ever have....in this life anyway.
In an age where science/medicine dominates with a philosophy of 'cut it out' or 'drug it under' it is hardly surprising that so many people believe there can be a 'quick fix' in the form of pill or product.
Whether it is supplements or the delusion of 'superfoods' it all rests on the same erroneous base as science/medicine, i.e. that the body is a machine or bag of chemicals and you can 'tinker' with it as you would something mechanical or chemical and, in an instant, your 'problem' is solved.
The fact that this belief system is sourced in no reality or anything approximating the biological and physiological nature of the human organism, has not deterred science/medicine one whit, and continues to play a part in social attitudes and beliefs.
There is no 'one size fits all' when it comes to disease and science/medicine knows that even as it continues to pretend there might be. There is no 'magic pill' which can cure or heal. There is no magic food or potion, Allopathic or organic, which can fix anyone and everyone and anything and everything.
There is only the human body, unique and individual on every count, which succumbs to dis-ease for its own reasons, sourced in a huge variety of factors known and yet to be discovered, including, emotional, psychological, spiritual, circumstantial, experiential, physiological, biological, physical... and probably in that sort of order.
What is also certain is that the 'one pill fix' is no more effective whatever the source. There is no doubt that 'medicine' in all of its forms, when prescribed by a qualified professional, can help, although with iatrogenic - doctor or medical induced - now the third biggest killer in the US, most of it from pharmaceuticals, and the fourth biggest killer elsewhere, it is very clear that the most dangerous forms of medication are Allopathic.
That is not to say that Herbal Medicine cannot kill or harm you, for it can, nor that self-prescribed supplements cannot do harm, for they can. Each needs to be approached with caution and not used unless prescribed by a qualified professional.
Medical modalities like Acupuncture and Homeopathy cannot hurt you but they also require expert diagnosis and prescription if they are to be optimally effective.
At the end of the day the body heals and cures, all else is support. The problem with things like 'superfoods' is that, as with all things, unless they are correct for you and taken in the correct dose, they are likely to do little good and can do some harm. Certainly, they will never do the harm that pharmaceuticals do, but they can do harm.
Worse, they encourage this erroneous and dangerous belief that we can maintain or restore health with no effort beyond the 'quick fix.'
The body 'speaks' in symptoms and when we listen to the language of the body we can come to understand what is at work in us and what it is our psyche and soma need for optimal health. The process is slow. There is no quick fix. We need to be aware, observant, attentive, considered and considerate.
Health is a lifelong process and while obsession is neither wise or required, attention is crucial. Listen to your body, respect your body, treat your body with love and care, eat food which contains optimal nutrition and prepare the food with care. Enjoy what you eat. Food remains the first and best medicine and while supports may be needed at times, if you are measured, sensible, moderate and informed about what you eat, your health will be the better for it.
I also believe that enjoying the preparation and eating of food is the greatest act of love and the best medicine of all. You do not need miracle foods or pills - you need to spend the time looking after the only body you will ever have.
Friday, February 13, 2015
Do we choose our feelings or do they choose us?
I have been having an interesting
conversation regarding feelings. I believe that feelings are innate and
instinctive and not chosen, while others believe that we choose what we feel.
We can certainly create an environment where we are likely to
feel a certain way but that is different to a reaction to a given situation
where, for instance, we feel hurt.
I believe that feelings just are, and require only to be felt,
or honoured. We can then, if we are self-aware, choose what we do with those
feelings and how we respond to the situation or the person who has triggered
those feelings of hurt. We do not choose how we feel about what happens in the
moment, but we do choose, or we can choose, where it takes us.
Human beings are hardwired to
connect and connection is really just the technical term for love in its
various forms. Research shows that the more connected we feel the more optimal
is our immune function and health, so, that feeling connected, or feeling loved
is an innate part of the human condition.
It is natural that in
situations which indicate a 'disconnect' or 'lack of love' that we would have
an instinctive and natural response as part of our 'warning system.' It is also
natural that in such situations we should experience feelings which make us aware
because that is part of our evolutionary survival 'kit.'
Feeling 'hurt' is a message
which we need to hear for a variety of reasons, otherwise we would not
experience such feelings. As an organism our body knows that 'disconnection' is
'dangerous' and never more so than when the 'disconnection' is with someone we
love, i.e. with whom we have an important, supportive, loving and connected
relationship.
Human beings have been
created to feel and if it required thought to feel then babies and small children,
before the age of true 'consciousness' would just not feel and we know that is
not the case. They feel and they feel deeply. In fact, up until about seven,
children are all feelings and little thought - well, little focussed thought.
So, if babies and children
feel without the capacity to 'think' a feeling into existence, that says
feelings are innate and instinctive, and I relate that to our hard-wired need
for connection. Studies of babies and children in orphanages with poor care,
has shown that those who are not touched or 'connected' with carers, have poor
health and often die. We cannot survive without physical, emotional and
psychological connection with others and so it is logical that the 'loss' of
such connections, or the threat of loss, would trigger feelings which both warn
and allow process.
Feeling hurt, if we study it closely, involves all sorts of
emotions - fear, grief, sadness, anger - sourced in a sense of 'loss' or
disconnection. Some people are so easily hurt that the actions of a stranger
can cause them pain, but, most of us are only hurt by the actions of those we
love, and I would add, trust.
There is a sliding scale of relationship based on knowledge,
history, commitment and emotional connection where the same actions by a
stranger in a queue would not have the equal impact on you, as those actions
would from someone with whom you have a strong, committed and loving relationship.
And that is because there is no real connection with the
stranger and so, any cruelty, rejection or unkindness does not create a sense
of 'loss' or betrayal and so there is no capacity, in a healthy psyche, to feel
'hurt.'
I know it is a common approach in psychology to take a
behavioural approach and to believe that we choose what we feel in any
situation but human beings are far too complex to be reduced to mechanics and
behaviour and there is not anyway, 'one size which fits all.'
Just as we do not choose to laugh or cry, but we can stop
ourselves from laughing or crying, so too we do not choose to feel, although we
can 'stop' ourselves from feeling. Although in truth, we do not stop the tears,
laughter or feelings but merely suppress them where they will express
themselves in some other way because, particularly with feelings, the physical
experience must and will, be somehow felt. I am sure dreams play a part in
releasing, expressing, honouring, feelings which are not allowed to be known
consciously.
Quite some years ago when I saw a therapist for a short time she
asked me: What comes first, the thought or the feeling?
I was not sure. I think I said 'thought' because I am more in
touch with thoughts than feelings, or, I was then, but I continued to reflect
on many occasions in the years that followed, as to her question.
The question raised my sense of self-awareness and I came to see
that for me anyway, what came first was the feeling. Then I would apply
thoughts to rationalise the feeling. It may well be different for others.
And while there is no doubt that what we 'think' can encourage,
maintain and influence how we feel, the reality is that our responses to
certain situations are feelings first, which come of their own accord and which
are not chosen, and then we rummage through, unconsciously and consciously, the
'chest' of thoughts which might explain the feelings.
At least that is how it is for me. Others no doubt are
different. Having said that, this is how I see it:
1. Feeling hurt because of the actions of others is not about
allocation of blame. It is purely a reaction to a situation.
2. Feeling hurt because of the actions of others is a reaction
in the moment and while grieving may take some time, the feelings of hurt
should be short-lived and when processed in a healthy way, enable insight and
assist grieving.
3. Feeling hurt because of the actions of others will last
longer for some than others, and will depend on circumstances, but such
feelings should not be enduring.
4. Feeling hurt because of the actions of others is something
for personal processing and while, if any apologies are forthcoming, and are to
be welcomed, is not something which requires the involvement of the person
responsible for the actions.
5. Feeling hurt because of the actions of others is a reaction
over which we have no control - they are just feelings. But, any responses we
might make due to feelings of hurt, are within our control and are our
responsibility and are not the responsibility of the person whose actions
triggered the original hurt.
And I feel and think this is also good advice:
We can’t choose how we feel, but we can choose how we act in
response to our feelings.
We can choose to sit with discomfort.
To feel our feelings.
To feel the loneliness and anger, the sadness and disappointment.
Unpleasant feelings don’t last forever.
They’re like waves.
The come in strong, until they peek and then ripple away.
Choose to ride the wave.
This too will pass.
Instead of disregarding the feeling or numbing out, develop an
awareness.
There is always a reason behind our feelings.
Feelings are not the enemy.
They are messengers.